What makes sexual relations?

Sexual relations extend beyond sexual intercourse. Oral sex, fondling and mutual masturbation for example are all sexual activities. When we embrace the Biblical truth sexual relations must be reserved for marriage.

What about kissing?

Some forms of kissing are nonsexual. We kiss our children or our mothers. But some forms of kissing are reserved exclusively for our wives because they are sexual. If you think that passionate kissing is not sexual then consider this story:

Tom’s wife made a cake and told Tom not to eat it till the next day when they’ll celebrate their anniversary. Tom had his dinner and then went to the cake, cut a big slice and placed on his plate. He took bit after bit and chewed, then removed the crushed cake from his mouth and placed on the empty space on the cake. The wife came in and saw what Tom did. Then she asked Tom, “didn’t I tell you not to eat the cake today”? Tom replied “that’s just what I did. I didn’t have any eating relation with the cake because my definition of eating is to swallow. I only chewed and removed”.

What will you say from Tom’s response? Tom violated the instruction, tom knew what the wife meant when she said he should not eat the cake. He was not to touch the cake. Fondling, passionate kissing is sexual activity and should be reserved for marriage alone. Dating should remain in the neighbour relation; because no one is committed in dating. Any person can decide at any time that they cannot continue and it’ll end as friends; no heart is broken. Any sexual activity outside the Biblical bounds of sexual ethics is a sin. We can’t present ourselves “as slaves to impurity and to lawlessness leading to more lawlessness (Rom 6:19). When Tom’s wife told him not to eat the cake, she meant “Leave it alone- don’t touch it” It is the same with the Bible’s teaching on sexual immorality.

We are not suggesting that passionate kissing is the same as sex, any more than Jesus, in his teaching on lust and adultery, meant to suggest that lust carries exactly the same consequences as adultery (Matt 5:27). Lust is of course a sexual sin.