What is Bereavement?

What is Bereavement?
A person is said to be bereaved when the person is deprived of a beloved person or a treasured thing, especially through death. Death is the end of being alive. That is; all the vital functions and processes in an organism or cell is ended.

No one knows how to die. But people believe certain experiences can be used to explain the experience of death. People who have gone on comma or short human inactivity due to medical situations (perhaps from anesthesia) believe the experience of death is the same. But the truth is that no one living has experienced death. Death is the last experience humans shall learn in this life. When you are death, there is no physical life and so death has no life. In other words, when you are dead you have no link with the living. This has caused a lot of fear in the minds of humans. Fear of the unknown world after death, fear of living without our loved ones. In fact when you are not directly touched, death is normal but when you are bereaved of your loved one, you find a difference in life.

People who are bereaved usually feel lonely haven lost their beloved. They get into stress as the memories do not go faster especially when the dead person played a big deal in the bereaved life. There is a gap that is created and needs to be filled. Some try to escape instead of getting it by the horns. Some face guilt; feeling they did not do what was necessary for the dead person. Some feel they would have done more or that they fail to do what was necessary for this person who died. All these cause worries in the bereaved.

Losing someone is not easy to accept, but we have no choice about it. If you have not yet experienced it, know that it will come some day; the worse will be others having the experience over you. I know everybody wants to go to heaven but no one wants to die now. Even octogenarians cry that untimely death is not their portion. Yes! But who defines it untimely? We or God? When someone you know dies, it shocks you and if the person was very close you may feel like part of yourself has died. It takes time to recover from the shock and the pain because the loss is permanent, and so what the person was to you is affected permanently. So you need to give yourself time, do not be worried that you are still suffering from the loss and pain, but know that it shall come to pass because God is closer to the brokenhearted (Ps34:18). We always have hope in Christ regardless of our hurt or fears. Welcome the Lord into your deep feelings and you will experience God’s comfort through His Spirit. You will make sense of your emotions and feelings of the beloved one you lost. God understands your situation; the complexities of your experiences and all of your thoughts and so He can mend the gap that you feel inside.